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Who am I?
Who am I? That the Lord of all the earth, Would care to know my name, Would care to feel my hurt.
Who am I? That the bright and morning star, Would choose to light the way, For my ever wandering heart.
I am a flower quickly fading, Here today and gone tomorrow, A wave tossed in the ocean, A vapor in the wind. Still you hear me when I'm calling, Lord, you catch me when I'm falling, And you've told me who I am. I am yours. I am yours.

by Casting Crowns



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Monday, June 30, 2008

OCF Winter Camp 2008: The Pursuit

OCF Winter Camp 2008 is over
But the Pursuit of God is never over

Camp was awesome!
Prayers were answered and God moved in this camp.
He provided so many things for us, like the campsite itself, Mt. Morton Lodge at Belgrave. Cosy area with a good hall and bunks (toilets were great!), plus it even had a pool table where quite a number of us congregated towards.
God knew what He was doing, and it taught me a lesson to have faith in Him in whatever He does.

Friday night was interesting enough during altar call. Something personal happened to me and it was a release, though initially I thought it was something impulsive, but it wasn't. I pray that I can keep on conquering fears and overcoming it day by day.
I think people enjoyed themselves a lot, as I have enjoyed it as well (although I keep on whining about my sleeping hours, as I did sleep for only 4 hours each night/morning and ran around on days, it doesn't really matter in the big picture or the impact of it all).

This camp felt different, probably because of being in the committee and helping to prepare and run it. Still I've gained so much more, so much more than I could possibly expressed. So all I can do is just...


and a big shout out to the rest of the committee members, Faith, Justin, Evone, Celina, Kang Wei, Nori, Andrew and Voon...not to mention the support of Ivie and the OCF Clayton committee, plus those who helped made this camp run smoothly - gamemasters, worship team, kitchen hands and speakers too!


Hope Church's message on Sunday totally coincided with the winter camp theme. Same passage used too: Exodus 33 + 34. I was smiling at God the whole entire time.

Visited Planetshakers City Church as well for their 3pm service. It's not bad, although I don't sense the culture shock. Only thing I was unsure about was when of the 'new visitors' time, and everybody got up for a standing ovation. I didn't know what to do, so thought I had to stand up as well, and while I was halfway up from my seat, Jon.R had to go slap his forehead and then I got it. So I laughed...an embarrassed but take good fun kind of laugh. The whole thing was good. Almost all of the songs sung I do not know, but I could catch quite easily. Typical Australian style.

Anyway, need sleep now. Volunteered to help out in Orientation for the 2nd Semester, and there's training in the afternoon.

~12:09 am

Tuesday, June 24, 2008


~7:33 pm

Friday, June 20, 2008

Médecins Sans Frontières (Doctors without Borders)

Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF) is an international medical humanitarian organization created by doctors and journalists in France in 1971.

Today, MSF provides aid in nearly 60 countries to people whose survival is threatened by violence, negligence, or catastrophe, primarily due to armed conflict, epidemics, malnutrition, exclusion from health care, or natural disasters. MSF provides independent, impartial assistance to those most in need. MSF reserves the right to speak out to bring attention to neglected crises, to challenge inadequacies or abuse of the aid system, and to advocate for improved medical treatments and protocols.

In 1999, MSF received the Nobel Peace Prize.

Humanitarian Action

MSF's work is based on the humanitarian principles of medical ethics and impartiality. The organization is committed to bringing quality medical care to people caught in crisis regardless of race, religion, or political affiliation.

MSF operates independently of any political, military, or religious agendas. Medical teams conduct evaluations on the ground to determine a population's medical needs before opening programs. The key to MSF’s ability to act independently in response to a crisis is its independent funding. Eighty-nine percent of MSF's overall funding (and 100 percent of MSF-USA's funding) comes from private sources, not governments. In 2006, MSF had more than three million individual donors and private funders worldwide.

MSF is neutral. The organization does not take sides in armed conflicts, provides care on the basis of need alone, and pushes for increased independent access to victims of conflict as required under international humanitarian law.

MSF's principles of action are described in the organization's 1971 founding charter, which established a framework for its activities.

Bearing Witness & Speaking Out

MSF medical teams often witness violence, atrocities, and neglect in the course of their work, largely in regions that receive scant international attention. At times, MSF may speak out publicly in an effort to bring a forgotten crisis to public attention, to alert the public to abuses occurring beyond the headlines, to criticize the inadequacies of the aid system, or to challenge the diversion of humanitarian aid for political interests.

In 1985, MSF spoke out against the Ethiopian government's forced displacement of hundreds of thousands of its population; took the unprecedented step of calling for an international military response to the 1994 Rwandan genocide; condemned the Serbian massacre of civilians at Srebrenica in 1995; denounced the Russian bombardment of the Chechen capital, Grozny in 1999; and called for international attention to the crisis in Darfur in 2004 and 2005 at the United Nations Security Council.

In 2008, MSF called for international attention to the increased targeting of civilians in conflict in the Democratic Republic of Congo, Central African Republic, Chad, and Somalia; advocated for the widespread adoption of new protocols for the treatment of malnutrition to include the use of ready-to-use foods; challenged pharmaceutical company Novartis's court case opposing the production of generic medicines in India, which produces an estimated 80 percent of the developing world's medicines; and spoke out against the plan of the governments of Thailand and Laos threatened to forcibly return nearly 8,000 Hmong refugees to Laos.

MSF medical teams on the ground are in constant dialogue with local authorities, warring parties, and other aid agencies in an attempt to ensure the best possible medical care for patients and their communities and to reinforce the organization's operational independence.

Who is MSF?

On any one day, more than 27,000 committed individuals representing dozens of nationalities can be found providing assistance to people caught in crises around the world. They are doctors, nurses, logistics experts, administrators, epidemiologists, laboratory technicians, mental health professionals, and others who work together in accordance with MSF's guiding principles of humanitarian action and medical ethics.

MSF field staff are supported by their colleagues in 19 offices around the world, including one in New York. The vast majority of MSF's aid workers are from the communities where the crises are occurring, with ten percent of teams made up of international staff, including more than 200 aid workers from the US in 2007.

Quality Medical Care

MSF rejects the idea that poor countries deserve third-rate medical care and strives to provide high-quality care to patients and to improve the organization's practices. Through the Campaign for Access to Essential Medicines and, in recent years, in partnership with the Drugs for Neglected Diseases initiative, this work has helped lower the price of HIV/AIDS treatment and has stimulated research and development for medicines to treat malaria and neglected diseases like sleeping sickness and kala azar.

International Structure

MSF is an international movement made up of 19 associative organizations: Australia, Austria, Belgium, Canada, Denmark, France, Germany, Greece, Holland, Hong Kong, Italy, Japan, Luxumbourg, Norway, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, United Kingdom, and the United States.

Each association is responsible to a Board of Directors elected by its members (MSF's current and former field staff members) during an annual general assembly. Thanks to this large network, MSF has considerable financial, human, and logistical resources.

MSF-USA was founded in 1990 in New York City to raise funds, create awareness, recruit field staff, and advocate with the United Nations and US government on humanitarian concerns.

In 2007, MSF-USA raised $152.1 million, representing 20 percent of the MSF network's private funding. It sent 200 aid workers to work overseas, liaised with a wide range of US media, organized high-level meetings with UN and US government officials, and arranged regular speaking events and activities across the US.

*adapted from MSF: About us


Something that I would love to part of, and planning to.

~10:38 pm

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Wooing with a chaperone

'nuff said.
This kind of answers the 'dating' question (just in a really sarcastic amusing way).

~8:44 pm

Abba Father let me be
Yours and Yours alone
May my will forever be
Evermore Your own

Never let my heart grow cold
Never let me go
Abba Father let me be
Yours and Yours alone

by Dave Bilbrough

~12:24 pm

Saturday, June 14, 2008


Some randomness...got bored...

feat. Charlize Theron

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~8:43 pm

This may be the very end of space
Sinking into the twilight of waste
Where has thou gone to search for come haste
Amplifying the reason to save

Eternal Sabbath might be the fray
To swerve from left to right
And lift me up and down
Purely out of spite and shades of gray

Oh Fuyumi Soryo
Take your hands of her
You've made MARS so fair
Just leave it as that
But I know your heart
Has plans of grandeur
Which makes distance from
Eternal Sabbath so dear

Couldn't help making a poem about Eternal Sabbath and Fuyumi Soryo. Was browsing through onemanga.com when I saw that FS had a new story other than MARS (which is an utterly brilliant piece of manga work I've ever seen). She loves to integrate psychological elements into her characters and plots. Seems like the plot bunnies from my head travels across far lands and rainbows to catch up to someone who can draw well in Japan. =D
Alright, alright...not my plot bunnies...but her work is fantastic nonetheless. If you like MARS, go check out Eternal Sabbath. But this has a sci-fi element to it, and not much romance (and from what I'm reading, I highly doubt there is any even throughout the manga).

If you guys don't get my first paragraph in the poem, just think:
Lynette + (Examinations - Stress) + Fatigue = ?

~1:19 am

Thursday, June 12, 2008

I seek

the only One who can help me.
Oh pull me through, please.
You promised.
You promised.
I'm dependent upon You.

~11:14 pm

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

To those people

who want to be in court one day (either as a lawyer, a juror, a judge, or the accused), this is what happens in an Australian court.
It's quite funny...

Sudoku-playing jurors halt trial

A drugs trial has been abandoned in Australia after several jurors admitted they had spent much of their time playing Sudoku in the courtroom.

Judge Peter Zahra aborted proceedings after the jury forewoman admitted she and four others had been playing the popular puzzles to fight off boredom.

The problem was discovered when some of the jurors were observed writing notes vertically rather than horizontally.

Sudoku involves completing a grid of numbers in the correct sequence.

The three-month trial had cost taxpayers more than A$1m (US$945,000) and the two accused men faced possible life sentences.

Copious 'note-taking'

One of the jurors explained that the puzzle had helped keep her "mind busy" as she listened to repeated testimonies from the witness box.

"Some of the evidence is rather drawn out, and I find it difficult to maintain my attention the whole time," the juror told the Australian Associated Press.

Lawyers had presumed the scribbling they could see jurors doing was note-taking.

"We actually all thought they were quite a diligent jury," lawyer Robyn Hakelis told ABC local radio.

"The judge had made many comments about what a good jury they were, how they were taking copious amounts of notes."

There is no legal action that can be taken against jurors for doing puzzles during a trial, so they will face no penalty for their behaviour.

A fresh trial is expected to begin in a few weeks, once a new jury has been called.

Story from BBC NEWS:

Published: 2008/06/11 06:42:07 GMT


~9:35 pm

Sunday, June 08, 2008

A conversation with a friend

Lynette: u still look so boy

Chien: mmm =.=
thanks alot

Lynette: sry, cannot help it

Chien: lol

Lynette: cute la

Chien: neither can I

that was the funniest thing
cannot help it
neither can i

Chien: it's true though ^^


Chien: u don't expect me to take hormone pills

Lynette: hahahhahahahahahhaha
that was so amusing
im putting it on my blog


and there you go.

Just so you know why I'm laughing like crazy, here's a picture of him.

and another one...

~10:31 pm

~7:31 pm

Saturday, June 07, 2008

Mandy Moore - Wild Hope

Mandy Moore [elegancepixelfied.com]
lyrics of Wild Hope

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~11:47 pm

Issues (Think about it)

~4:09 pm

There are times where food matters the most
There are times where food is given to the lost
And there are times where food is just 'makan'-ed by the ghosts

The chef cuts the hen's neck
boils and fries till check
He lays it all out on an Aluminium tray
For ghosts to eat till fray

The ghosts just grab and chew
making odd noises like, "Yum!" and "Crunch!"
For the food was just chill

Then came the fellowship
laughter strewn all around
People making faces chip,
"I look so round!"

How wonderful the buffet was
When everyone was fed
Tummy full till gas
And to release it was just sad...


an odd little thing I wrote which I came across in my May 2006 archive.
cracked me up.

~12:37 am

odd thrill for music that have weird chord progressions.
My latest fancy is "There's just something about that name" by Sonicflood.

*On a side note, I've made a few changes to the personality test post below. Highlighted bold those I think is true to myself, or what I perceived myself to be as.
We can debate the true nature of Lynette some time soon.

~12:10 am

Thursday, June 05, 2008

Took a random test on Facebook

and this is what it gave me:

Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving
The Idealist

INFPs focus deeply on their values, and they devote their lives to pursuing the ideal. They often draw people together around a common purpose and work to find a place for each person within the group. They are creative, and they seek new ideas and possibilities. They quietly push for what is important to them, and they rarely give up. While they have a gentleness about them and a delightful sense of humor, they may be somewhat difficult to get to know and may be overlooked by others. They are at their best making their world more in line with their internal vision of perfection.


INFP children often create their own fantasy world and live very much within it. They may daydream about what is important to them, and sometimes others wonder if they are in touch with reality. They often get lost in their thoughts and books, and may develop a special ability in communicating, such as writing. They are somewhat reserved, especially in new situations.

INFPs decide early on what is important for them, what is of value. They tend to rely on themselves for direction and are reticent to ask others for help. They would rather do things themselves, to make sure they are done properly. INFPs have found this to be both a strength and a curse. Depending only on themselves and being careful not to show mistakes to others is important. As teens, INFPs may have a bit of a rebellious streak. They may argue with those who hold different values than they do. They are also likely to have a small, close set of friends with whom they share good times. In the comfort of those close relationships, they can relax and are often quite entertaining, since they see the world in a different and special way. Their sense of humour is readily apparent. However, unless an INFP finds an appreciation for his or her uniqueness and personal values, he or she may feel like an odd person out.

When they set their minds on things, INFPs are not likely to give up easily, yet because of their outward gentleness, they do not show their determination. They may not take a direct path, but somehow they reach their dreams.

As young adults, INFPs may have some difficulty finding the ideal career and the ideal mate, in part because of that very word 'ideal'. They have a vision in mind of what they want, yet reality may not follow suit. They may make several starts and stops in their career until they find a comfortable place for themselves.

INFPs have a need for perfection in connection with their personal values. They become frustrated with those who dwell on trivialities.

INFPs need a purpose beyond the paycheck. They become burned out easily if their job does not fit their value system; they may not feel good enough about what they have achieved and, as a result, may undervalue themselves and their contributions.

In retirement, INFPs need to look back and feel that they have led a worthwhile life that has made a difference. They want time for a variety of activities, including travel. They may also be very attached to their family and enjoy special visits with them.


INFPs learn best in flexible situations where they know the teacher takes a personal interest in them. They like to be able to interact with their peers, but not too much so. They want to feel free to dig into subjects that are of interest to them. Having both flexibility and creativity rewarded is encouraging to them. While they may not enjoy deadlines, if they value the assignment, they will meet those deadlines. Deadlines may force INFPs to decide that their work is 'good enough' to turn in.

Subjects that hold a great deal of interest for them are learned readily. They will often do extra work in their attempt to learn as much as possible about something of interest. And they often read assignments carefully and them work their creativity into the given framework of the assignment. Thus it may appear that they did not pay careful attention to the details of the assignment in their reinterpretation. It is best if they have teachers who appreciate their unique approach and who do not hold them to the letter of the law.


At work, INFPs contribute their creativity, their value system, and their ability to work with others. They are able to see the larger picture and how specific programs fit in. They do not dwell on the trivialities or the details. Their job must be fun, although not racous, and it must be meaningful to them. They need a strong purpose in their work. They want to be recognized and valued, without undue attention given to them. They may become embarrassed when make the center of attention. As a result, they may undersell their strengths in order to avoid being singled out and made to feel conspicuous. They would rather have their worth be noticed gradually over time.

INFPs like to work with cooperative people committed to the same values that they are. They can become bothered when they see others working at cross purposes, especially when conflict is overt. They do not like competition or bureaucracy. They need privacy. Calm and quiet appeal to them, as does time and space for reflection. People usually like working with INFPs even though they may not know them well.

INFPs are quite disorganized. But when tasks at hand are important and best done in an organized way, INFPs strive to do so. Practicality is not a driving force for INFPs. Things that traditionally belong together may not be placed together because the INFP does not see it as necessary. They have trouble finishing what they start because of their perfectionistic nature. When they do finish a project, they may not consider it done 'for good.' Projects can always be improved upon, revised, and reworked, and therefore INFPs find it hard to bring tasks to closure. Because they are able to visualize the finished product long before it is done, the actual completion is of less importance.

INFPs prefer occupations in which they can be involved in making the world better. Having their heart in their work is important to them. These occupations also allow for an element of creativity and flexibility. INFPs are particularly interested to be counselor, editor, education consultant, English teacher, fine arts teacher, journalist, psychologist, religious educator, social scientist, social worker, teacher, writer, and other occupations that engage their values.


The INFP leadership style is subtle, gentle, indirect, and inclusive of others. INFPs do not confront people head-on, but rather work with them and through them to get the job done. Their style is not an aggressive one but is highly persistent; only reluctantly do INFPs assume leadership roles.

They lead with their values in mind, and these guide them. They prefer not to take a hands-on approach with others but to allow them to achieve in independent ways. They are facilitative rather than directive. They encourage others by appreciation and praise. Critiquing others does not come easily to them.

INFPs seldom confront situations directly, in part because they do not like conflict. Whenever possible, they would rather wait for a situation to work itself out, since they trust that people will work things through. They do not like following all the rules and regulations, but they are not overtly rebellious. They seek to get things done in their own style.


Leisure activities are very important to INFPs, but at times it is difficult for them to separate work from play. When a new leisure pursuit is found, INFPs typically do a great deal of research. They may read many books and make several phone calls to dig for information.

Many of the INFPs' leisure activities are done alone --- reading, listening to music, and gardening are some activities likely to appeal to them. Reflection time and the opportunity to make sure things are right are important. INFPs often enjoy leisure pursuits with loved ones as well. When they want to be sociable, they can be exceedingly charming and outgoing. Their flexibility, gentleness, and sense of humour can make them quite popular in social situations.


For the INFP, love is a very deep commitment, and one that is not easily attained. They have ideals, and therefore reality may be carefully scrutinized.

With their ideal firmly envisioned, the first date with that special person is carefully planned and prepared for, and often every aesthetic thing is taken care of. The flowers are in place, the right wine is ordered, and the proper meal is prepared.

INFPs may have difficulty sharing their feelings about others. They keep so many of those feelings inside that they may forget to tell their partner how much they love and appreciate them. They also need reminders of their partner's love.

When things go wrong in a relationship, the INFP takes it to heart but does not readily discuss it with others. They may not be willing to communicate to let others know how they are feeling. When scorned, they are very hurt and may overreact in an almost maudlin way.


INFP Relationships

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INFPs present a calm, pleasant face to the world. They appear to be tranquil and peaceful to others, with simple desires. In fact, the INFP internally feels his or her life intensely. In the relationship arena, this causes them to have a very deep capacity for love and caring which is not frequently found with such intensity in the other types. The INFP does not devote their intense feelings towards just anyone, and are relatively reserved about expressing their inner-most feelings. They reserve their deepest love and caring for a select few who are closest to them. INFPs are generally laid-back, supportive and nurturing in their close relationships. With Introverted Feeling dominating their personality, they're very sensitive and in-tune with people's feelings, and feel genuine concern and caring for others. Slow to trust others and cautious in the beginning of a relationship, an INFP will be fiercely loyal once they are committed. With their strong inner core of values, they are intense individuals who value depth and authenticity in their relationships, and hold those who understand and accept the INFP's perspectives in especially high regard. INFPs are usually adaptable and congenial, unless one of their ruling principles has been violated, in which case they stop adapting and become staunch defenders of their values. They will be uncharacteristically harsh and rigid in such a situation.

INFP Strengths

• Most INFPs will exhibit the following strengths with regards to relationship issues:

• Warmly concerned and caring towards others

• Sensitive and perceptive about what others are feeling

• Loyal and committed - they want lifelong relationships

• Deep capacity for love and caring

• Driven to meet other's needs

• Strive for "win-win" situations

• Nurturing, supportive and encouraging

• Likely to recognize and appreciate other's need for space

• Able to express themselves well

• Flexible and diverse

INFP Weaknesses

• Most INFPs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationship issues:

• May tend to be shy and reserved

• Don't like to have their "space" invaded

• Extreme dislike of conflict

• Extreme dislike of criticism

• Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation

• May react very emotionally to stressful situations

• Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship

• Have difficulty scolding or punishing others

• Tend to be reserved about expressing their feelings

• Perfectionist tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit

• Tendency to blame themselves for problems, and hold everything on their own shoulders

INFPs as Lovers

INFPs feel tremendous loyalty and commitment to their relationships. With the Feeling preference dominating their personality, harmony and warm feelings are central to the INFP's being. They feel a need to be in a committed, loving relationship. If they are not involved in such a relationship, the INFP will be either actively searching for one, or creating one in their own minds.

INFPs tendency to be idealistic and romantically-minded may cause them to fantasize frequently about a "more perfect" relationship or situation. They may also romanticize their mates into having qualities which they do not actually possess. Most INFPs have a problem with reconciling their highly idealistic and romantic views of life with the reality of their own lives, and so they are constantly somewhat unsettled with themselves and with their close personal relationships. However, the INFP's deeply-felt, sincere love for their mates and their intense dislike of conflict keeps the INFP loyal to their relationships, in spite of their troubles achieving peace of mind.

Unlike other types who tend to hold their mates up on a pedestal, the INFP's tendency to do so does not really turn into a negative thing in the relationship. INFPs hold tightly to their ideals, and work hard at constantly seeing their mates up on that pedestal. The frequent INFP result is a strongly affirming, proud and affectionate attitude towards their mates which stands the test of time.

INFPs are not naturally interested in administrative matters such as bill-paying and house-cleaning, but they can be very good at performing these tasks when they must. They can be really good money managers when they apply themselves.

Sexually, the INFP is likely to be initially slow to open up to their mates. Once their trust has been earned, the INFP will view sexual intimacy as an opportunity for expressing their deep-seated love and affection. More than the actual sexual act, they will value giving and receiving love and sweet words. With their tendency to enjoy serving others, they may value their mate�s satisfaction above their own.

One real problem area for the INFP is their intensive dislike of conflict and criticism. The INFP is quick to find a personal angle in any critical comment, whether or not anything personal was intended. They will tend to take any sort of criticism as a personal attack on their character, and will usually become irrational and emotional in such situations. This can be a real problem for INFPs who are involved with persons who have Thinking and Judging preferences. TJs relate to others with an objective, decisive attitude that frequently shows an opinion on the topic of conversation. If the opinion is negative, the TJ's attitude may be threatening to the INFP, who will tend to respond emotionally to the negativity and be vaguely but emphatically convinced that the negativity is somehow the INFP's fault.

For INFPs with extremely dominant Feeling preferences who have not developed their Intuitive sides sufficiently to gather good data for their decision making processes, their dislike of conflict and criticism can foretell doom and gloom for intimate relationships. These INFPs will react with extreme emotional distress to conflict situations, and will not know what to do about it. Since they will have no basis for determining what action to take, they will do whatever they can to get rid of the conflict - which frequently means lashing out irrationally at others, or using guilt manipulation to get their mates to give them the positive support that they crave. This kind of behavior does not bode well for healthy, long-term relationships. Individuals who recognize this tendency in themselves should work on their ability to take criticism objectively rather than personally. They should also try to remember that conflict situations are not always their fault, and they're definitely not the end of the world. Conflict is a fact of life, and facing it and addressing it immediately avoids having to deal with it in the future, after it has become a much larger problem.

INFPs are very aware of their own space, and the space of others. They value their personal space, and the freedom to do their own thing. They will cherish the mate who sees the INFP for who they are, and respects their unique style and perspectives. The INFP is not likely to be overly jealous or possessive, and is likely to respect their mate's privacy and independence. In fact, the INFP is likely to not only respect their mate's perspectives and goals, but to support them with loyal firmness.

In general, INFPs are warmly affirming and loving partners who make the health of their relationships central in their lives. Although cautious in the beginning, they become firmly loyal to their committed relationships, which are likely to last a lifetime. They take their relationships very seriously, and will put forth a great deal of effort into making them work.

Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFP's natural partner is the ENFJ, or the ESFJ. INFP's dominant function of Introverted Feeling is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Extraverted Feeling. The INFP/ENFJ combination is ideal, because it shares the Sensing way of perceiving, but the INFP/ESFJ combination is also a good match.

INFPs as Parents

INFPs are "natural" parents. They accept and enjoy the parental role, seeing it as the natural extension of their value systems. They make use of the parental role for developing and defining their values further, and consider it their task to pass their values on to their children. They take their role quite seriously. Warm, affirming, and flexible, the INFP generally makes a gentle and easy-going parent in many respects.

INFPs do not like conflict situations, and will keep themselves flexible and diverse to promote a positive, conflict-free environment in their home. The INFP is not naturally prone to dole out punishment or discipline, and so is likely to adapt to their mate's disciplinary policy, or to rely on their mates to administer discipline with the children. In the absence of a mating parent, the INFP will need to make a conscious effort of creating a structure for their children to live within.

Although the INFP dislikes punishing others, they hold strong values and will not tolerate the violation of a strongly-held belief. If they feel that their child has truly committed a wrong, the INFP parent will not have a problem administering discipline. They will directly confront the child, stubbornly digging in their heels and demanding recourse.

The INFP parent is likely to value their children as individuals, and to give them room for growth. They will let the children have their own voice and place in the family.

Extremely loving and devoted parents, INFPs will fiercely protect and support their children. If there is an issue involving "taking sides", you can bet the INFP will always be loyal to their children.

INFPs are usually remembered by their children as loving, patient, devoted, and flexible parents.

INFPs as Friends

INFPs are warm and caring individuals who highly value authenticity and depth in their personal relationships. They are usually quite perceptive about other people's feelings and motives, and are consequently able to get along with all sorts of different people. However, the INFP will keep their true selves reserved from others except for a select few, with whom they will form close and lasting friendships. With their high ideals, they are likely to be drawn to other iNtuitive Feelers for their closer friendships.

With their strong need for harmony and dislike of conflict, INFPs may feel threatened by people with strong Judging and Thinking preferences. Although they're likely to be able to work well professionally with such individuals, they may have difficulty accepting or appreciating them on a personal level. They generally feel a kinship and affinity with other Feeling types.

INFPs will be valued by their confidantes as genuine, altruistic, deep, caring, original individuals.


I wonder how much of it is true. So I'm an idealist eh? Hmm...
Judging from track records of personality tests as studied in psychology, I reckon only about 50%. =P

*edited: those not in highlighted bold are things that I'm either not sure of, or I just plain don't think it's me.

~1:05 am

Tuesday, June 03, 2008

random wallpaper

A 1024x768 wallpaper I made during break time.
Brushes are by ~ca-pris

This is another version of the wallpaper (it's not that fantastic though. couldn't find the right blend.)

~8:57 pm

I love

~12:46 am

Monday, June 02, 2008

It's difficult

studying for Youth Media.
Because it seems relatively easy, and all the topics/concepts are just related to each other.
But trying to get 500 words out for each question is difficult. I need examples, and that is not always easy.
Now all I need to do is draw a big mind-map with topical links, and remember author names.
Crap. the latter doesn't so appetizing.

I wanna be moved
by Ginny Owens

This road is winding, narrow and steep
And I can't keep walking with frozen feet,
My spirit is not willing;
My heart is cold as ice;
Thaw out my convictions;
The passion's left my life

I don't wanna be a flame
I wanna be a raging fire!
Tired of my will, my way,
Your calling's higher
Oh, I know it's time I stopped running from the Truth
So I'll stand here still, until I'm filled
I wanna be moved
I wanna be moved by You

Wanna be a rebel with a Holy cause,
Stand against the Devil and hold up my cross,
You have a mission for me; a reason why I'm here,
To radiate Your glory, with sweet songs to Your ears

~1:35 am